Sexual Abuse of Children Increases During the Summertime ~ Tips for Keeping Your Children Safe

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Stop Child Abuse Instances of child abuse increase during the summer, with some shelters and child advocacy centers actually doubling their caseloads, according to anecdotal reports.

While these tragedies include everything from neglect to beatings, child advocate  Michelle Bellon, author of The Complexity of a Soldier (www.MichelleBellon.com), says parents and caregivers should be especially alert to one of the most easily hidden and underreported crimes: child sexual abuse. Her novel centers on this epidemic, and aims to raise awareness about it.

"Children may be less supervised during the summer, or they may be in the care of extended family members so their parents can save money on child care," she says. "Both situations put children at risk; the former for obvious reasons and the latter because 90 percent of child sexual abuse victims know the offender."

Child predators are terrorists, Bellon says. Like the terrorists we deploy armies to battle overseas, they prey on innocents and subject them to physical and emotional torture. The consequences can be devastating and lifelong, including post-traumatic stress disorder and separation anxiety, according to the American Psychological Association reports.

"Does this sound like anything else we have heard about since 9/11? To me, it is very similar to what victims of terrorism face, and what soldiers face after fighting wars," Bellon says. "I think child predators should be called what they are – domestic terrorists."

Bellon shares these guidelines from a number of sources, including the Centers for Disease Control, to keep children safe this summer.

  • When choosing a summer program, ask about employee (and volunteer) screening and how interactions are monitored.  A criminal background check is not sufficient to ferret out sexual abusers, since many have never been charged or convicted. Instead the program should look for warning signs in written applications and interviews. For instance, some predator adults spend all of their time with children and have no significant adult relationships. Policies on interactions between adults and children should include examples of appropriate and inappropriate conduct, and definitive steps for both monitoring and addressing concerns and complaints.
  • Ask about the training.  Staff and even temporary volunteers should undergo training to recognize signs of sexual abuse and to learn when it’s appropriate to report concerns. There should be a designated person to handle reports. Training should be required for staff and volunteers who come on board midway through the summer. Policies should include procedures for handling not just potential abuse, but also violations of the code of conduct for interactions.
  • Ask about interactions between older and younger children.  Some programs allow older children to serve as “junior counselors” or activity assistants. Ask about the guidelines for these situations, including whether and how long children may be unsupervised by an adult.
  • Make sure children understand "personal boundaries."  Teach children the importance of recognizing and respecting the invisible barriers that separate them from other people. They should be able to recognize their comfort zone – and that of others! – and know that they can and should speak up about setting limits. Start at home by respecting a child’s right to say “no” to physical contact, such as tickling and hugs. Never force a child to kiss a relative.
  • Recognize signs of a problem.  Children often won’t or can’t tell you what’s happening, but there are signs to watch for, including changes in behavior such as withdrawal or unprovoked crying, night terrors, bedwetting, eating problems, unexplained injuries, suddenly avoiding a particular person, and unusual interest in or knowledge of sexual matters.

 

Michelle Bellon earned her associate degree in nursing, and lives with her husband and four children in Olympia, Wash. She is the author of four novels, including “The Complexity of a Soldier,” which deals with the issue of child sexual abuse.

I'm a former 7th grade Science teacher turned stay-at-home mom that lives in Houston, Texas. I am married to my college sweetheart and have a beautiful daughter named Riley, who definitely keeps me on my toes! I am also involved in starting a small business which would both manufacture and sell an invention that I've patented, called Toothpaste 2 Go. I love interacting with my readers and hope to learn as much about you as you learn about me!

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2 Responses to Sexual Abuse of Children Increases During the Summertime ~ Tips for Keeping Your Children Safe!

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    Thank you for this article! It still surprises me how few adults are aware of this problem. This morning alone I ran into one neighbor who (I assume) innocently tried to use emotional pressure to get my child to hug him – have to call him later to ‘educate’ him about how that’s not acceptable, and also someone who joked with my child about giving them candy if they’d climb into his truck. Thankfully I keep my kids in my sight at all times, and my 4 yr old had the wisdom to say ‘no’, but I could tell it was a hard choice for her, and if I hadn’t been there with her, who knows how that might have gone? (shudder).
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      Oh Lara, that is scary and you are so right! My daughter is 3 now and I already cringe when it comes time for sleepovers and going to friends’ houses. You just never know who might harm a child and it literally could be anyone. I don’t want to be too overprotective, but I will never forgive myself if anything like this happened to my child…I just can’t imagine much worse. I hope these tips help to heighten the awareness of this possible summertime danger and keep our kids safe!

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